White Picket Fences

Yesterday I was taken aback by a beautiful gal who asked me to sign her book. She had her soon-to-be officer with her, and her 7-year-old son. I asked her a couple of questions and soon she was dabbing the edges of her eyes, careful not to mess up her mascara. “I was doing fine…

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Chapter 1- Mr. & Mrs. Cop: What Makes us Different, cont.

Stress Perhaps the biggest impact on your marriage will be the stress of your hubby’s job. There are so many pressures on policemen. There’s the hatred from criminals, office politics, accusations from the media, a lack of justice in the court systems, armchair second guessing, the heartbreaking injuries and deaths of innocent people, and even…

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Chapter 1: Mr. and Mrs. Cop: What Makes Us Different

“I actually am careful about what I wear to bed when he’s on duty. Because I never know when another uniform will knock on my door…” Fran, CHP wife, thirteen years “How many normal people use words like trained observer and incident in their conversations?” Rhonda, CHP wife, eleven years ———————————————————————————————— I didn’t sign up…

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Introduction: Attitude is Everything

“Marriage is hard,” he warned. “Marriage to a cop is even harder. You need to think through if you truly want to do this. Do you think you have what it takes to be the few who make it? Most cops are divorced…” The background investigator could tell I wasn’t fazed. Which is why he…

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