How 2 Love Our Cops

Posts by Victoria Newman - "A CHiP on My Shoulder"

A Lesson in the Mailbox

It was dark when I went out to fetch the mail last night. I thumbed through the mail as I walked, straining to see by the dimly lit houses. One envelope caught my eye. It was a small card, made out to my author name, no return address. The postmark was from St. Louis, Missouri.…

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Ganjgal Five Years Later

It happened five years ago today in a remote village in Afghanistan. An ambush. A battle. Bad decisions. And 11 Americans and many Afghan nationals were forced to hunker down and fight for survival in what is called simply by its village name: Ganjgal. That one word conjures up pain in the hearts of those…

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How to Love Your Cop Through Hate

How to Love Your Cop Through Hate Yesterday I asked Chief about the general feelings of the troops in light of the movement of hatred toward police officers brought to the forefront in the Michael Brown shooting. “Just another day on the streets,” he replied. When I answered with a quizzical look, he reminded me…

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Life and Its Priorities

My blog posts have been lacking lately. As in nonexistent. Nada. At first, when I realized that it was early spring that I last posted, I got a little nervous. “I’m losing momentum, my readers will miss my blog, I’ll lose followers!” But actually, the world has gone on without my little thoughts, and I…

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The Sixth Love Language

I didn’t think it could be done. There are five love languages – Acts of Service, Physical Touch (Affection), Words of Affirmation, Gifts, and Quality Time. About 98% of the population give and show love through these five practices. And nobody’s ever really come up with another. And I think everyone’s been okay with that.…

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How to Start a Peer Group

I absolutely LOVE my new Peer Group. There are eleven of us wives from six different departments around the NorCal area. We’ve met twice now and the camaraderie is already there. I’d like to see other groups like this – to experience the friendship with other LEOWs, and to really have that support. So I’ve…

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Why We Avoid Community

On Wednesday I held the first meeting of my new peer group. I invited several local police wives to join me once a week to go through A CHiP on my Shoulder chapter by chapter. We enjoyed some goodies, introduced ourselves, talked about the purpose and the rules, and basically learned who each other were.…

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Hello, My Name is Victoria

My daughter and I were watching TV together the other night. She asked me a question about the show, and I started to tear up. She gave me that teenage-are-you-really-getting-emotional-about-HGTV-Mom?-look. It’s a smirk – and from time to time I have to bare my soul and explain my thought process for things I do that…

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An LEOW Thanksgiving

Over the freeway and through the neighborhood To my mother’s house we go A well-worn road With kids in tow To spend another holiday alone. Over the freeway and through the neighborhood To mother’s questioning eyes! Oh, LE Wifey dear, Why isn’t he here? For Thanksgiving dinner here lies! Over the freeway and through the…

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Two Minutes with Gilmartin

Last week I had the opportunity to attend Dr. Kevin Gilmartin’s training on Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement. It was my first time listening to him teach in person. I was taken in with the way he presented the parts of police officers others rarely see: the biological and chemical reactions to what they are…

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