Chief and I have a wonderful friend named Karen we’ve come to know and love who stayed with us last night. She is one of the world’s most effective therapists for cops with Post Traumatic Stress (Disorder/Injury), as she’s cured cops from Northern Ireland, Israel, Kosovo, and the United States. In fact, her guys in…

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I am the product of many women who have spoken into my life. Those who have extended their love and care in different seasons and different years. Jackie taught me that writing is a beautiful expression of soul and spirit. Mama Josie showed me at a very young age that no matter the shades of…

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There is a lot of negativity in this law enforcement life. Our officers deal every shift with people who’ve experienced something traumatic; whether it be an accident, a crime, a death, or were arrested because they smoked too much, swallowed too much, or shot up their arms or others. Evil is a thing. And our…

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How2LoveOurCops is now in our second year as a nonprofit, and wow, have we been busy! Right now we’re gearing up for our annual fundraising event with its new name: Hearts for Blue Gala. This night brings community and public servants together to celebrate our cops and their families. We seek to create awareness of…

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It was a gloomy, rainy morning; not only reflected in the skies, but in my mood. It was cold and wet outside, but I needed to run. I chose music that told me to be confident in my foundations—who I am, my mission, my relationships—but I didn’t believe it. I’d been doing familiar battle within…

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Register for the March 2nd Conference HERE. About this Event Home Watch 2019 is our first conference for spouses of law enforcement officers. Set aside a day just for you, and bring your friends! You’ll laugh, cry, connect, and be encouraged as you glean “Strength for the Journey”. Includes refreshments, lunch, interactive conversation, stories and…

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I’ve been feeling pretty nostalgic lately. Seven years ago this time of year was when CHiP on my Shoulder—How to Love Your Cop with Attitude hit the online bookstores. I had no idea what to expect—would people buy it? And if they buy it, would they even like it? It was a complete unknown. And…

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Yesterday I had a good cry. It wasn’t about gratitude for our country, or amazing fireworks, or indignation of where our country is headed. I’ve done all that in years past. No, yesterday was a different kind of Independence Day. The month of June was about celebration. Thirty years of marriage. My daughter graduated from…

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Our old home began its makeover in April of last year. It wasn’t hard to figure out what needed to be done first—the kitchen floor. It was a white linoleum that had undergone the wear and tear of four children, four teenagers and dozens of friends, thousands of meals made, hundreds of goodies baked, and…

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“This home is not a safe place for me.”   The words cut like a knife. They dove down into the deepest place of my motivation and pride, and locked in fear and pain.   Not a safe place? Our home, the place where I strove to create home and memories and talks and beauty…

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